Since We're Broken

Get Into the Word: Matthew 13:10-16


“But your eyes are blessed because they do see, and your ears because they do hear! For I assure you: Many prophets and righteous people longed to see the things you see yet didn’t see them; to hear the things you hear yet didn’t hear them.”


Why are you always trying to fix us? We’re fine.

These were my husband’s words in our first year of marriage, expressing his exasperation with my constant attempts to make our marriage better. I feared failure like the plague. For me, failure included not reaching my (and our) potential, and not putting forth my very best effort. Fear fueled my fixing.

I failed to realize God was after healing my heart, not simply fixing my behaviour.  

I didn’t know how to let Jesus heal. I was busy being my own Bob the Builder— Can we fix it? Yes we can! The irony and hypocrisy is that I, too, hate when I feel someone is trying to fix me. It’s nails on the blackboard of my soul. I don’t want to be fixed, I want my need to be felt.

At age 8, my story became part of His redemption story. I knew I was a sinner and needed a Saviour. I didn’t know I was broken and needed a Healer. By grace, through faith, Jesus gave me eternal life but it took longer to allow Him to heal my heart in a way that changed everyday life. In theory, I knew following Jesus was a relationship— Jesus says you are accepted, therefore change. But I often lived like it were a religion— change, and then you will be accepted by God.1

Though I was already accepted by Him, but I was trying not to fail to prove to Him I was acceptable.

But Jesus came to heal what no amount of my fixing or striving could accomplish: He alone could make my heart whole and restore my relationship with Him.  

To heal, we kneel.

Healing is different work than fixing. Perhaps the most difficult thing to accept is that healing is out of our control. We cannot heal ourselves; we surrender to the Healer.

To heal, we feel.  

We surrender our barrage of “solutions”—fixing, manipulating, persuading, improving and forcing, that can desensitize us to the pain our feel. We confess what we cannot fix— frustration, pain, guilt, doubt, inadequacy, complacency, fear, pride, selfishness and anger. And the good news? We receive forgiveness and we begin the journey with Him of healing and restoration.

Remember the Big Story, a loving Father’s relentless desire to be at home with His children?

In “The Parable of the Sower,” Jesus reveals what kind of heart is a fitting home for Him.

A cultivated heart—one that is willing to be broken, willing to trust Him, and willing to let Him satisfy its desires—is a fitting home for Him.

What are the results when we let Him do His work on our hearts? Eyes that see Him, ears that hear Him and a heart that understands Him. What an incredible invitation we have to see, hear and understand God. Let that fuel your conversation with Him today.


Talk to God:


  • HE: Thank you for pursuing me and making a way to be at home with You. You want to heal my heart so I can see, hear and understand you.  

  • ME: Reveal where I’m trying to fix things myself instead of turning to You for help and healing.

  • WE: Fill me with your Holy Spirit so I am reminded of your loving presence all day long.  


Join the Conversation:


Which is the hardest for you: being broken, trusting Him, or allowing Him to satisfy your desires? Can you think of an example of how any of these three resulted in a closer relationship between you and God?


This post is an excerpt from Cultivate: 40 days of Preparing Our Hearts for Him. To learn more, or to sign up, CLICK HERE.



1Greear, J.D. “Plumb Line #1: The Gospel Is Not Just the Diving Board; It's the Pool – Summit Life with J.D. Greear.” Summit Life with J.D. Greear, J.D. Greear Ministries, 27 July 2016,